A collection of my thoughts, journal entries, and personal affirmations that I hold near and dear to my heart.
Stop running from your purpose.
We all arrive at a point in our lives that maturity, life lessons, and spiritual growth brought us to. We are looking for our divine purpose in life. We seek God to reveal to us why we were created. The question, "What are we placed on this earth to do?" is consistently sitting on our hearts. We pray, fast, and seek God for this revelation. When our purpose is finally presented, most go through a spectrum of internal phases such as: excitement, fulfillment, wholeness, doubt, abandonment, and recommitment.
We initially are excited and hit the ground running, ready to create and place all the ideas that occupy our brains into motion, but what happens when that eagerness fizzles out? How can we reignite the spark that once captivated our every thought? The answer is simple, STOP RUNNING.
The thought of me being transparent and vulnerable was once liberating and therapeutic. It then changed into fear and not wanting to revisit emotions that are normally hidden and stored away. It became easier to just let life take a front seat to a divine purpose I fought my whole life to receive. The recommitment was necessary for my sanity and necessary for my journey of continued growth. I had to redefine what I thought was pressure into purpose. I had to fall in love again with something that once brought me joy. I had to get inspired and intentionally seek refuge in something I was deliberately running from.
Life has many ups and downs. We experience growing pains. We experience triumphs and we experience defeats, but it's never to late to get back on track and allow God to continue to use you.
Spend sometime with your purpose today....
I hope this letter finds you well. You've been on mind and I wanted to write to you and express my love and admiration. A lot has changed in your life these past months. You've grown, found love, and found your voice. The road to get here was trying, exhausting, and a times too much. You wanted to give up, but you didn't. You wanted to stay comfortable, but you allowed yourself to step out of your comfort zone. I applaud you. I am proud of your growth and transparency. You found your voice. You are no longer ashamed or afraid of who you really are. You want to share your love and experiences with women who share your same journey. You found your purpose. It's been a while since we talked, but you found your way back to me. Don't be sadden about the laps in time. We all wander off course. You're back and you're better. Love still lives inside of you and growth shows in your smile. I love you and thank you for loving me back. Be blessed Queen. The best is yet to come.
Most people believe self care is getting pampered or buying yourself something nice to feel good. I personally believe self care is truly nurturing your inner-self. The self that when some asks "Are you ok?", you answer from the most truthful place.
Below are 4 of my most important "items" I keep in my toolkit.
Since I've been a young girl, I've always communicated best through writing. Journaling has allowed me to leave my hopes, fears, dreams, tears, frustrations, etc on paper to either manifest or to be released. Bad days are fought by my pen. Excitement for my life is captured by my pen. And my conversations with God are memorialized by my pen.
2. Sage Stick:
D.C has introduced me to guided meditation and more holistic approaches to releasing energy. Lighting my sage stick allows the smoke to move bad energy from your space. Offering a pure cleansed atmosphere that nurtures peace and enlightenment.
3. Disconnecting/Quiet Time:
Protect your peace at ALL cost. Placing my phone on "do not disturb" and allowing myself to be left with my own thoughts is golden. Not answering the phone, allows me to only deal with MY life's problems and gives me much needed time to regroup. Taking care of yourself and protecting your peace go hand and hand. Being a constant source of someone else's need to "unload" can be draining. Don't feel guilt for being unavailable or needing time to yourself.
4. A Good Book:
Getting lost in a good book has ALWAYS been in my self care toolkit. Even as a young child when I didn't even know what self care was. As an adult, reading for leisure is a pleasure that I enjoy. It's super therapeutic and offers an escape from our world's obsession with constantly staying digitally connect.
Sidenote: I'm currently reading "Wholeness" by Pastor Touré Roberts. Each page is changing my life. I HIGHLY recommend this book!
What's in your Self Care Toolkit?
noun, the quality of being thankful
Through the ups and downs, good and bad days, let's remain thankful.
It's so easy for us to focus on what we lack that we ignore what we're currently supplied with.
One of my faithful mantras I've embedded into my life: "Train your mind to see the good in every situation" has allowed me to turn negative thoughts into positive confirmations.
Being positive and optimistic are actions. Two actions that sometimes do not come easy to us.
Bad days will never last forever. The season you're currently in may seem like it will never get better, but focus on why you're in this season. Why would God place you here? It has to be a reason and lesson(s) to be learned.
This post was inspired by my very first journal I began when I was in graduate school in 2013. Reading through my entries, I expressed an overwhelming amount of gratitude for my life. Reflecting on the season I was in during that time, I feel a certain compassion for that girl because she was in a space, career, and relationship that she thought wasn't ideal. She longed for more and she prayed faithfully to see her fruits bared. Looking back, knowing what I know now, God was positioning and aligning me for this very moment. From that, I take away to enjoy and be thankful for the current season we're in, no matter how good or bad it may seem.
Let's show gratitude, always.
Cut the distractions.
Truly be alone in your singleness. Tackling any issues that have been caused by serial dating and relationships.
Find comfort in solitude.
It’s ok to be alone.
Take 32 days to evaluate the people in your life.
What are their intentions? What are your intentions? What purpose are they serving to better you? How are you bettering them?
32 days of reflection, stillness, and boldness.
32 days of not compromising who you are to please others.
32 days of removing people from your life without guilt due to attachment, history, or loneliness.
During these 32 days, strive to maintain purposeful, intentional relationships. Eliminate anyone who disrupts your peace and peace of mind.
There’s so much beauty
Simply stated, simply put...you are ENOUGH.
I am the one.
I am worth the commitment.
I am great.
I know my worth.
I believe in ME
You are enough. The heart you have is made from pure gold.
The love you show others and the compassion you have are immeasurable.
Keep seeking God. Let go of your fears and doubts. Have faith God is working this out for your good.
You are going to be ok.
Be yourself. Stop fearing the unknown.
Know that God is still the same God as He was yesterday, today, and tomorrow.
Don't forget your worth and keep your mind focused on God and His promises.
Jeremiah 29: 11-12